And if yours is one filled with pressure, high expectations and judgment - you’re in the right place.

I’ll help you learn how to stop getting in your own way and start showing up for yourself.

If you’re interested in gaining direction and being a better partner to yourself,

Let me introduce the…

You can leave every relationship except the one with yourself.

A picture of Luke Tanner, mental health coach and the creator of Life Collab.
A picture of Luke Tanner, mental health coach and the creator of Life Collab.

Good Partner System
(GPS)

After more than 3000 hours of helping clients improve their relationship with themselves,

I’ve developed GPS, the Good Partner System.

Like it’s namesake, the goal of GPS is to install a system you can actually rely on to navigate your way through life.

GPS is about making a commitment to being a better partner to yourself.

It’s about being authentic, patient, understanding, encouraging and forgiving, even when it’s hard.

It’s about seeing beneath the surface level behavior, to the needs that drive them.

It’s about creating the right internal environment for you to flourish.

If you want a beautiful plant, you give it the right soil, light and water.

Then it will naturally grow.

We work the same way.

The Process

Acknowledge your needs

How can I help you, if I don’t really see you?

The first step of the process is to stop judging your behavior and to start seeing the needs underneath the surface that are driving them.

It’s easy to say: “I didn’t go to the gym today, that’s bad”.

It’s much harder to say “I can see that my need for good health was sacrificed in order to fulfil my need for comfort”.

We all have competing needs that motivate us in different ways. The more you can identify them, the more control you have over how you fulfill them.

Learn to respond

It’s much easier to move forward when we’re on the same team.

Once you’re really seeing what’s going on with yourself, you’ll then have the opportunity to respond like a good partner would.

We’ll focus on 5 ways a good partner responds - with authenticity, patience, understanding, forgiveness and encouragement.

So instead of “you’re so lazy”

You’ll hear “I can see how much looking after your health matters, let’s try to prioritize it next time. How can I make that easier for you?”

Show up and listen

A healthy relationship is built off of listening. Without it, there’s no connection.

The final step is putting in the reps.

You’ll get the opportunity to commit to seeing yourself from this perspective on a regular basis using my signature ‘I see you’ journalling practice.

It enables you to zoom out and see yourself from a birds eye view, rather than being stuck in your own view which is clouded by emotions and judgments.

It offers you the opportunity to truly see and hear yourself. And like any other relationship, the more you do this, the stronger your connection will be and the more the relationship will flourish.

Here’s what past coaching clients of mine have experienced.

  • When I first started, I thought that my life was done

    Not worth fighting for if coaching didn't work out.

    I felt lost, undeserving of love and stuck. I was at a 5/10 in life, not dying but not living.

    Luke helped me become who I wanted to be, someone that loves themselves, is able to self reflect and continue to grow. I also overcame my fears and doubts around romantic relationships and now have a girlfriend that I love a lot.

    Because of how much trust I had for Luke, even when there were situations where I pushed back on his ideas, deep down I knew he would guide me to a better place, because time after time he did so.

    In just 9 months, I changed a lot, I love myself and I keep on growing, all thanks to my effort and Luke's help.

    Bryan L

  • Working with Luke was a transformative experience for me

    From the very first session, I felt heard and understood, which instilled a sense of confidence in my journey forward.

    The weekly sessions became something I eagerly anticipated, as I noticed gradual yet significant changes in my life over the months.

    One of Luke's greatest strengths is his ability to calmly assess situations and allow clients to lead the conversation.

    He empowered me to apply new strategies in my daily life which not only built my confidence but also helped me tackle challenges I once found overwhelming, such as my social anxiety. I learned to reach out to others and start conversations without the burden of negative overthinking.

    I now approach situations with a newfound adaptability and trust in my judgment, which has positively impacted both my personal and professional life.

    The sessions felt more like engaging conversations rather than a rigid questioning format.

    I truly appreciate the guidance and support I received from Luke, and I feel empowered to continue my growth journey with confidence.

    David

  • I had a great time working with Luke.

    I had weekly sessions for 10 months and in that time I made tremendous progress.

    I came into the program not knowing how to connect with my emotions and have constantly experienced emotional numbness.

    Luke was very knowledgeable and he helped guide me into the right direction and I've since learned how to recognize my own emotions, process them in the moment and throughout all this, help me on the journey of finding my own identity and confidence.

    In the very beginning I did not know what to expect going into the sessions, but Luke was able to guide me in the beginning and helped me understand myself without giving me the answers.

    He has been very kind throughout, always understanding, and I felt like I was able to talk about topics that I would have otherwise been uncomfortable to confront on my own.

    Overall I would highly recommend coaching sessions with Luke to anyone who would like to better understand themselves and their emotions!

    Jing. J

  • Luke's coaching transformed my life during a difficult year.

    When we started, I was unhappy at work, trapped in a poor relationship, depressed, and using alcohol to cope. I struggled with boundaries and speaking my mind.

    Luke created a safe space where his compassionate yet direct approach helped me discover my authentic feelings.

    He reflected my words back to me, asked challenging questions, and called me out when I wasn't being honest with myself.

    Thanks to his guidance, I left toxic situations, reconnected with family, developed better habits, and found interim work while pursuing my dream job.

    I'm now content, purposeful, and focused on continuous growth.

    Luke's genuine interest in my wellbeing made all the difference. As he wisely said, "We will get knocked off our path, but we can get back to it.

    Nikita

  • I found every session to be a challenging but rewarding experience

    I went into coaching having tried a lot of self-help tools and research without getting anywhere.

    Working with Luke for 6 months helped a lot, he was very patient and understanding during the process, and I appreciated the kind words and encouragement when I struggled.

    Not to mention the straight forward, honest words when I needed to hear them.

    I felt like I was able to talk about the things that were most important to me at the time, and I felt both safe and comfortable discussing personal topics about my life.

    The two biggest gains I had from coaching was a desire for self-love and the confidence to enact change in my life.

    Luke focused me on ways to improve my personal well-being and advocacy for myself, prioritizing my needs in a way I hadn't done before.

    Giving myself the freedom to be frustrated when people don't treat me well; reminding myself that the things I do and create have value even if they're not perfect; and accepting that there are things that are out of my control, even if that reality hurts sometimes.

    Eli

  • My time working with Luke was both enlightening and comforting

    He was always professional in our sessions, never once arriving late in the year I worked with him.

    At the same time, Luke was friendly in all of our interactions, and it was very easy to open up to him.

    He always challenged me to trust my own thoughts and act on them, rather than fall back on being indecisive.

    Luke helped me form a new perspective on how I view myself. I don’t feel ‘inadequate’ or ‘lesser than’ as often as before working with Luke, and he helped me develop tools to confront these feelings whenever they do pop up.

    I can’t recommend Luke enough and I’m thankful for the time, care, and attention he provided.

    Steve W.

  • Luke was critical to my personal growth and healing journey

    After feeling lost, alone, and unsupported, I sought support to improve my overall health and relationships with others.

    Our weekly sessions gave me something to look forward to, and Luke challenged my thinking and perspectives to the point that I slowly rediscovered a part of myself that I’d lost over the years.

    The tools I developed allow me to manage challenging situations better and be a better leader at home and work.

    I would absolutely recommend Luke!

    Jason W.

  • At first, I was avoidant of coaching or support

    Luke helped me better understand myself by letting me speak my mind and then helping me break things down in a way that even after our sessions helps me communicate with others and deal with my day to day emotions.

    I had weekly sessions with Luke for five months, and during that time, I learned how to manage my avoidant personality and recognize the subtle moments when I slip into autopilot to avoid stress.

    I also learned to express myself more effectively and was given the space to explore my feelings deeply enough to truly understand what they meant to me.

    Lee. H

Beneath these stories of success are the 3 core tenets of my coaching approach

I never tell my clients what they should do. That’s not my role. I believe that the answers you need are within you and it’s my job to help you discover them. Your connection with your intuition is vital, and we’ll work together to strengthen it so that you leave coaching feeling confident in your ability to deal with whatever else might show up in your life.

On this journey to discover your own answers, you’ll find that….

The answers are within you.

Often we go through life trying to dodge discomfort. We order delivery instead of cooking to avoid the annoyance of doing dishes. We scroll on phones to drown out our boredom. We watch porn to mute the loneliness that we feel.

At the core of my coaching philosophy, is the idea that we need to embrace and sit with discomfort in order to learn and develop. The longer we continue to try to dodge discomfort, the longer we stay stuck in our unhelpful cycles.

However, while sitting with discomfort is necessary, I also believe that…


Sitting with discomfort is necessary.

When people think of therapy, counselling, or coaching, they often imagine something dry, unpleasant, or even pointless. My take? If working with me feels like that, I’m not doing my job properly.

Sure, there’ll be hard moments — growth always brings up emotions like shame, disappointment or self-doubt that we’ll need to sit with together. But on the whole, coaching should feel energizing, meaningful and even enjoyable at times.

My commitment to this working for you is so strong that if you genuinely don’t feel supported within the first 4 sessions, you can request a refund for the money spent.

I don’t want financial risk to get in the way of you living a better life.

Coaching should be enjoyable.

So why not give it a shot?

Let’s collab.